Thursday, December 02, 2004
DISCLAIMER: the following post is simply a set of my private thoughts. any resemblance to a person is purely coincidental. if you are offended in any way by such deep thoughts from me, then
don't read the post. =) (too bad)
Got around to thinking this when i was talking to a friend. Actually, it wasn't asked, but after the conversation i started seriously thinking about this - what am i looking for in a gf?
yeah yeah yeah i know it's kinda weird to be thinking about it, and most of you will tell me that "when it happens, it happens". and you know what? i agree with you on that. but i also think that it's a good idea to have a rough gauge of what i expect of someone whom hopefully will live the rest of my life with me.
..she could be talented in sports, playing all the games that i love to play, and we'd spend many happy days in the sun, sand and sea (and land of course) having fun with other friends..
..she could be musically inclined and we'd play together on whatever instruments we can, romancing each other with duets of love songs (yeah i know, i'm a romantic)..
..she could be sentimental and caring to the extent that we'd both buy things for each other for no special occasion, but simply because "i thought of you when i saw this", and listens to me (and of course i to her) whenever i have problems of my own, just to share the burden..
but you know wat? all these eventually struck me as non-essentials.
i love music, but she doesn't have to be able to sing or play the piano or guitar or anything; she just has to love music with me, even if it's just listening.
i love sports and the outdoors, but she doesn't have to be an avid swimmer, or cyclist, or blader, or canoeist, or etc; it's be nice if once in a while we get out to the outdoors together, maybe for a picnic or just to lie on the grass and look at the sky.
i love gifts and the feeling of being cared for, but everyone has his or her own life; i can't expect her to keep me actively in her mind all the time, nor spend excessive amounts of time with me even when i'm going through a rough patch - she has her own things.
in the end, what i finally thought i needed was something very simple. of course if she could do all those things above, it'd be great as well, but seriously what's needed is just this: that she loves my God and she loves me for who i am and not what i can do.
now that i've settled the
what, the problem of the
who comes out...but i think i'll leave that alone for now - it's enough to know that i know what i'm looking for. i'd honestly like to say that "it's all in God's hands", but i'm afraid that isn't actively the truth. i'm just biding my time at the moment, with no one in mind (yes, read that again -
no one in mind) and not closing any doors.
if anyone cares to walk through it..we'll see. like i said, "when it happens, it happens". =)
simply jon.pondered @ 1:06 am
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